Answering Proust

These are in answer to my previous post which has the questions without answers. If y’all want to answer them (and they’re interesting to answer, feel free — they’re making the rounds) you can find the unanswered questions there.  As I mentioned in that post, Embeecee, where I picked these up from, also has interesting answers. Go check her post out too.

1.  What is your idea of perfect happiness?  There’s no such thing as “perfect happiness”. It’s an illusion to believe that it can be obtained — well for any amount of time.  There was a comedian who said it well. True happiness (like true despair)  is ephemeral.  It lasts for seconds.  We feel it and go, “Ah, that’s the good stuff.” and spend the rest of our lives trying to obtain that feeling again. Sometimes it’s an orgasm, sometimes it’s a very good meal, sometimes it’s scratching that itchy spot just inside one’s ear. It’s different for everyone, everywhere and what made me happy yesterday won’t necessarily make me happy tomorrow.

but-i-dont-want-to-go-outside-there-are-people-out-there2.  What is your greatest fear? Yeah, not telling.  Speak of the devil and all that.

3.  What is the trait you most deplore in yourself? The fact that I’ve become such a timid person when not too long ago I was actually quite fearless. It’s something I’m trying to work on.

4.  What is the trait you most deplore in others? I cannot abide rudeness in others. It makes me want to start smacking people left and right. I don’t actually smack people left and right, but I want to.

5. Which living person do you most admire? No one comes to mind.

6.  What is your greatest extravagance? My crafting supplies. I have all kinds of crafting supplies that are superfluous but I still buy them. I have this urge to buy crafting supplies. I crochet, knit, sew, do paper crafts, and some other miscellaneous crafts. I’m not a master of any craft, I mostly dabble. But I do buy books and supplies whenever I get the hankering to, say sew something. Then it’s all, “Oh, books! and thread! and fabric! Needles! and… stuff!” It doesn’t matter if I already have all of those things, I still must buy more. Before I moved here, I bought most of this stuff at thrift stores and yard sales, but there aren’t many thrift stores here, so I’m spending way more money than I should right now. >_<

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7. What is your current state of mind? I’m tired. No, I am fatigued. Being fatigued makes me, for the most part, apathetic towards things in general. If something strikes me as amusing, I’ll laugh. Same with anything that tugs at my heartstrings, but for most of the day, I’m pretty meh.

8. What do you consider the most overrated virtue? So, here’s a table of the seven virtues and their corresponding sins:

Virtue Latin Gloss Sin Latin
Chastity Castitas Purityabstinence Lust Luxuria
Temperance Temperantia Humanityequanimity Gluttony Gula
Charity Caritas Willbenevolencegenerositysacrifice Greed Avaritia
Diligence Industria Persistence, Effort, ethics Sloth Acedia
Patience Patientia Forgivenessmercy Wrath Ira
Kindness Humanitas Satisfactioncompassion Envy Invidia
Humility Humilitas Braverymodestyreverence Pride Superbia

You can click the links for Wikipedia’s definition of what they are. As for which one I think is “overrated” I think they’re all overrated as a “virtue”.  Because in order to be a virtue, you have to live by them.  Just as in order to be a sin, you have to live by the sins. In other words, just eating too much at one meal is not Gluttony, but to over indulge on everything all the time, and to put that indulgence before the worship of the Christian god, well, that is gluttony and therefore a sin. So I can be patient with a bratty kid once, but that does not make me virtuous. But if I were patient with everyone all the time even in the face of persecution of my beliefs (if I were Christian), that would make me virtuous… in other words, I’d have the patience of a saint. ha!

9. On what occasion do you lie? Ha! I’m not telling.  ^_^

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slightly younger, slightly thinner

10.  What do you most dislike about your appearance?  I’m not gonna lie, I spent two years of my life losing 100 pounds, and kept that weight off for a long time. A long time. I’m mad as hell that my stupid thyroid has packed on nearly all of that weight back.  For the past three years I’ve slowly but surely been creeping back up to my highest weight. It’s freaking annoying. I eat less than most people, I know I do. I’ve kept food journals that let me know this, and I still am gaining weight. Well, right now I’m holding at 265 pounds, but god dammit! I worked hard to lose that weight and keep it off. I’m angry that my body has tossed all of that out the window.

11. Which living person do you most despise? I don’t despise anyone personally. Not even our glorious leader. Yeah, he’s an asshole and not fit for office, but I cannot find it in me to personally despise someone I’ve never actually met. In my mind, he’s an idea, a concept. Yes, the things he does can affect my life personally. I understand that, but it’s the way my mind is wired. I’ve never met the man so I have not antipathy towards him.

12. What is the quality you most like in a man? That he’s alive? I dunno. Each man is different and carries their qualities differently. It’s like a fine suit… Take that suit and put it on the first guy and it might look dashing and smart.  But put it on the next, and even if the suit fits, the next guy might appear to me like a child playing dress up.  Now take the same suit and put it on another guy (assume it fits every guy correctly), and it might look like someone in a costume for a play — something’s not quite right. Maybe the next guy to try it on will look dashing and smart, who knows? After all, it’s a nice suit, but after that we go back to a child playing dress up again…  And so on.  Same suit, and technically it fits every guy we put it on, but the look and feel of it is different.

13.  What is the quality you most like in a woman? Same as answer 12 but with a simple black dress.

14. Which words or phrases do you most overuse? What an interesting question! Actually, I totally don’t overuse any words. Like, you know, I can’t think of any words that I totally over use. Like any at all. Like, I actually can’t wrap my mind around that phrase at all. Totally blows my mind that y’all would think I overuse any words. You know? Ha!

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Artist’s Rendering

15. What or who is the greatest love of your life? Doug, my husband. And if anyone says different, I’ll punch them in the eye. We were made for each other. It took us a long time to find the other, but it was totally worth the trip. He is the love of my life. Simple as that.

16. When and where were you happiest?  See the first question. Happiness is ephemeral. I’ve lived 52 years on this planet, and I cannot point to any one time and say: “That is the moment that shines the brightest of all the moments I’ve lived on this Earth.” It just doesn’t happen this way. Of course, I don’t *remember* all of the moments I’ve been alive, so I may have forgotten completely my happiest moment, you know? That one, shining moment when I sat in complete contentment and it’s slipped from my mind forever.  I wrote a poem about that a long time ago when I used to write poetry.

17. Which talent would you most like to have? The ability to translate anything written spoken or sung and to be able to speak any language in real time. That would be awesome. I see those universal translators on science fiction shows and I always think, “Damn, that would be awesome.” I would totally sign up for one of those if they became available. Beg, borrow, and steal to get one.

18.  If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?  Not a damned thing. I’m pretty awesome as I am — pain and all. I wouldn’t mind a little less pain, but only if it doesn’t come at any cost to me or anyone else.

body knows better

19. What do you consider your greatest achievement? I’m not big on achievements. I don’t really care about them. I’m sure I’ve done things that people admire in my lifetime, but those things are in the past and I’m here now. I supposed my biggest achievement is that I’ve lived this long and hopefully will continue to live a few years longer.

20. If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?  Dunno, I’ll leave that up to the fates. I’m not even sure that I’ll come back on this planet. I mean, why would we be stuck on this planet? There are millions upon millions of planets out there to reincarnate into.  Once we’re dead, we’re not stuck in these corporal bodies anymore, we are one with the ether… we can be reborn (if we are reborn) anywhere in the universe!  They say we’re made of starstuff, and why not?  We are all reborn stars. And if that’s true, then why wouldn’t we go out into the great unknown and reborn into the stars again and again? I like that thought.


21. Where would you most like to live?  I like where I am for the moment. Who knows what the future holds?

22. What is your most treasured possession?  I honestly do not have many treasured possessions.  When I think of this question, I think of “What would you rescue if your house caught fire?”  And of course it would be the furbabies and my important papers.  Maybe my computer. That’s about it. So I suppose my computer is my most treasured possession. Doug can rescue himself. He’s a big boy.

23. What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery? It’s different for everyone, isn’t it? And it’s really the same as happiness. The lowest depths of misery, just like perfect happiness, is fleeting (for most people who don’t have miswired brains).

24. What is your favorite occupation? If this was written back in the days of Proust and it hasn’t been updated into today’s language, then “occupation” meant hobby or way to pass the time and not what one does for a living.  My favorite occupation at the moment is watching videos on youtube. I also like to knit, and read blogs here on WordPress. I also, as y’all know, like messing around it Photoshop.

eat dessert first

Photoshop… 🙂


25. What is your strongest characteristic? I dunno. I guess that fact that I’m easy going. It’s difficult to get a rise out of me. Oh, sure I rant on here once in a while, but I’m not actually angry when I do. I’m usually just peeved or annoyed. I haven’t been angry in a long time. I pretty much take life as it is and keep on keeping on. Some people think that makes me “strong” I guess.

26. What do you most value in friends? Trust.  In any relationship, including friendship, trust is everything. If I cannot trust my friends (and they me) well, then there is no relationship. Once that trust is gone on either side, well the friendship is over.

27. Who are your favorite writers? There are way too many to name here.

28. Who is your fictional hero? Holly Golightly (Breakfast at Tiffany’s), Mame Dennis (of the Rosalind Russell variety), those are the only two that come to mind.

29. Which historical figure do you most identify with? Mae West

30. Who are your heroes in real life? A hero ain’t nothin’ but a sandwich. That was the title of a book I never read when I was a kid. Even though I never read the book, I sure took the title to heart. Why look for so-called heros when there are plenty of people all around me who are good and just?  And everywhere I moved, there they are — good people. I suppose that means my heros are all of the good people in my life who are just… there. They’ve always been there and because of them, I’ve never, not once lost my faith in humanity.

31. What are your favorite names?  I’ve always like Daniel and Thomas as names, and Brianna for some reason. The thing with names is that they have to fit the person you’re giving them to. You can’t just hang the “Brianna” tag on a kid that screams “Judith”  It’s not right.  My birth name never fit me. Like, ever. I wore like a bad pair of shoes, and hated it. I never had a nickname for my birth name because I always felt it wasn’t worth one. Willow fits me much better.

32. What is it that you most dislike?  What, like what in this entire world of millions and billions of things do I dislike the mostI honestly cannot point at one thing one this planet and say,  “there, that is the thing I hate most in this world.” My mind doesn’t work that way. (This answer is probably familiar to veteran readers of this blog)

33. What is your greatest regret?

i regret nothing

34. How would you like to die? Peacefully, in my sleep. That would be great.

35. What is your motto? Because why not?

4 thoughts on “Answering Proust

  1. Marilyn Armstrong

    I lost 175 lbs and then I got cancer and about 75 pounds slithered back. But just when I was beginning to get back to a better weight, I had to go in for heart surgery and that pretty much finished me off. I’m not huge, but I could lose 40 lbs and even 20 would be nice. But I’m not going to diet because my body can’t handle it. If being overweight is the big issue in my life, I can cope with that. All things considered, it could be a LOT worse.


    1. Willow Post author

      If it were only the weight… yeah. But it’s the thyroid, and the breathing, and the fibro. Still, the weight makes me mad.


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